**be sure to check out the prayer of faith and special message from the author at the end**
One of most painful experiences in life a person can go through is emotional pain and broken heartedness. I think it may even be worse than physical pain. Broken heartedness comes in many forms such as the loss of a relationship, the loss of a loved one or another deep disappointment. We are called to trust God completely and man discreetly. Man will let you down, but God never will.
These experiences throw us into a state of despair and disappointment so extreme that we begin to question God and His goodness. In these experiences we are to remember that God never causes these bad experiences in our life, our enemy, the devil is responsible. The God we serve is Absolutely Good, every good and perfect thing comes from Him who does not change (James 1:17), in Him there’s only light there’s no darkness at all (1 John 1:5) therefore God is incapable to bring harm to anyone.
We do though live in God’s system of seed, plant and harvest where whatever we sow, we shall reap (Galatians 6:7) but rest assured God’s heart towards us is pure and full of love since of course, God is love (1 John 4:8). Through Jesus Christ and by the blood of the lamb we can escape a bad harvest.
During these devastating times we are faced with a choice, do we press in closer to God or do we turn away, be angry at, reject and blame Him. The choice we make depends on our understanding of who God is and the intentions of His heart toward us. If we believe God is Absolutely Good, we would press in closer, but if we think He is the cause we would be angry at and reject Him. How could one trust someone who would intentionally harm them?
If you have lost someone who passed on to heaven, as believers remember that we do not grieve as the others do who have no hope beyond this present life (1 Thessalonians 4:13). Our hope is eternal life through Christ Jesus therefore, you have something to look forward to, you will see your loved ones again soon. This life we live here on earth is so very short as compared to our eternal life that is to come.
If your loved one accepted Jesus Christ as their Lord and savior and are indeed in heaven, then be sure they are full of joy to be finally at home with their precious Jesus. In a place where there’s no pain, no darkness, no sorrow, no pain and no tears just peace, love, light and joy in our Lord. So don’t let your loved one look down from heaven and see you full of grief and despair to make them sad but carry on their legacy, make them proud and look ahead.
There are of course times where God causes certain things to happen, closes certain doors, all for our preservation, protection and good, for example, a toxic relationship because all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose (Romans 8:28). During those periods of time, we may not be able to see it at first, but God always reveals it to us in due time. We always learn in retrospect, after the fact. Whatever the enemy meant for harm and evil, God always turn it around for our good (Genesis 50:20). If you went through a difficult time, I urge you to read your Bible to learn more about who God is, and how much love He has toward you. Allow His word to comfort and encourage you.
Pastor John Hagee states that faith reminds us that God is always faithful and true. He continues that If we must understand God to obey God, we will never obey God, to obey what we understand is only to agree with God but to obey even if we don’t understand is obedience by faith. He finally says that obedience by faith then leads to understanding the ways of God and the wisdom of God.Pastor John Hagee
Even when we don’t understand or don’t feel like it, we as believers must exercise obedient faith by choosing to put our trust, hope and faith in Him and in His word, whilst reminding yourself He is Absolutely Good, faithful and true.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and He will make straight your paths. Proverbs 3:5-6
Whenever you find yourself questioning God, picture in your mind Jesus on the cross after being tortured and killed for you. God gave His only son and Jesus willingly gave Himself, a willing sacrifice, all to reconcile us with the Father, so that our relationship with the Father may be restored, all done out of love for us, a perfect work.
We live in a fallen world where the god of it is Satan who prowls about like a roaring lion seeking whom he may devour (1 Peter 5:8). When we make Jesus Christ our Lord and savior over our lives we enter into a war where our adversary is the devil whose sole purpose is to steal, kill and destroy us (John 10:10). Satan has no power only the power we give him. One of highest forms of spiritual warfare against the devil, is love. In terrible circumstances, even though it may be the last thing you’d want to do, show love to God in praise and worship and show love to others.
Tears are a language that God understands, He promises to wipe every tear from your eyes (Revelation 21:4). Allow yourself a short time to grieve after adversity but don’t stay there for too long allowing the enemy to creep in. Remember God said He will never leave us nor forsake us (Hebrews 13:5). He gave us the Holy Spirit that is within us as believers of Jesus Christ as a comforter, encourager and strengthener, therefore, ask the Holy Spirit to comfort you and encourage you.
During and after this time of grieving empty yourself before Him completely and surrender your heart, soul, body and spirit to God. Ask Him to heal your soul, mind, heart and emotions and to make you whole again. Always remember Jesus is the only one that completes you and no man could heal you, only God. He is Jehovah Rapha, the God who healeth thee. He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds (healing their pain and comforting their sorrow) (Psalm 147:3).
We may not understand why things happen but find peace in knowing that God knows and He will bring you out of it better and stronger than you were before, as long as you allow Him to do it. Request of Him, “Heal me Lord and I shall be healed, save me Lord and I shall be saved for you are the one I praise” (Jeremiah 17:14).
At times you may think no one knows or understands what you’re going through, and it’s true, most times people don’t, but God does. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). When you think you’re alone in what you’re going through know that that’s when He is nearest.
He knows exactly what you are going through and feeling and He more than anyone wants to heal you and bind up your wounds. Jesus said that blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted (Matthew 5:4); that’s a consoling promise you can count on from Jesus Himself.
In hard times, God is our refuge, fortress and strength an ever-present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1). Make a decision to choose to put your trust in Him regardless of how you’re feeling. Satan is able to attack our soul (mind, will and emotions) and body therefore during this time put your soul and body in subjection to your spirit and to God. Be sure to fast, pray and stay in the word. Die to your flesh, submit to God, resist the devil and he will flee (James 4:7).
Trust in him at all times, pour out your heart before him; God is a refuge for us (Psalm 62:8). As sheep we aren’t meant to carry loads, our shepherd carries our load for us. Cast all your cares (all your anxieties, all your worries, and all your concerns, once and for all) on Him, for He cares about you (with deepest affection, and watches over you very carefully) (1 Peter 5:7). God is better able to deal with our situation than we are so trust Him with it and give it to Him never looking back.
So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, I will help you; I will uphold you with my righteous hand.(Isaiah 41:10)
God gives us eternal comfort and good hope through His grace (2 Thessalonians 2:16) and He said that His grace is sufficient for His power is made perfect in weakness, for when we are weak, then we are strong (2 Corinthians 12:9-10) because He pours within us His supernatural strength.
In a sense we are always meant to be strong, when we are strong, we are strong and when we are weak are still strong because we draw on His supernatural strength.
In a sense we are always meant to be strong, when we are strong, we are strong and when we are weak are still strong because we draw on His supernatural strength.
One of the fruits of the spirit in Galatians 5:22 that dwells within us when we are born-again and the Holy Spirit takes up residence within us is joy. He deposits His joy deep within us and that joy of the Lord is our strength (Nehemiah 8:10). I never understood Nehemiah 8:10 until God reminded me that one of the fruits of the spirit within us is His joy and He then asked me, “where does your true joy come from?”
I then realized that His joy within us strengthens us from within. For we can do all things through Christ who strengthens me from within (Philippians 4:13). Therefore, no matter what circumstance you find yourself in you have the Holy Spirit, a never-ending river of joy and strength fueling you from within.
The battlefield is certainly in the mind and during times of adversity the war gets much more intense. The enemy will try his best to distract us to get our eyes off of God and the word and he would use this opportunity to probe and bombard our minds with defeating and depressing thoughts leading you exactly where he wants to take and keep you, into the pit of despair, condemnation, self-pity, defeat, loneliness, bitterness, anger, depression, dread, fear and regret.
It’s easy for us to succumb and allow the devil to lead us into the pit but it’s easier to stop the thoughts right away than it is to get out of the pit. As believers in Christ Jesus, we have the mind of Christ (to be guided by His thoughts and purposes) (1 Corinthians 2:16). Daily, we must put on the helmet of salvation (Ephesians 6:17) and think like we’re saved by taking every thought captive to obey Christ, being ready to punish every disobedience, when your obedience is complete (2 Corinthians 10:5-6).
As a believer, seek, strive for and set your minds on things that are above and of the Spirit not that are on the earth so that you may have life and peace (Colossians 3:1-2, Romans 8:5-6) not allowing your circumstances to dictate your life. Believers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable and worthy of respect, whatever is right and confirmed by God’s word, whatever is pure and wholesome, whatever is lovely and brings peace, whatever is admirable and of good repute; if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think continually on these things (center your mind on them, and implant them in your heart) (Philippians 4:8). Continually renew your mind with the word of God.
He brought me up out of a horrible pit (of tumult and of destruction), out of the miry clay, And He set my feet upon a rock, steadying my footsteps and establishing my path. He put a new song in my mouth, a song of praise to our God; Many will see and fear [with great reverence] And will trust confidently in the Lord. (Psalm 40:2-3)
If you find yourself in the pit rest assured that our God promises to take us out of the horrible pit, set our feet firmly upon a rock, we will then praise Him, and many will see what He has done for us and come to know Him and trust confidently in Him.
Throughout life we may be tempted by the devil to go back in the pit, but we have to be alert and conscious of this and be quick to shift our focus back on God and His word. We must get fed up with Satan punching us around like a punching bag and make the firm decision and say, “No! I’ve spent and wasted too much time in the pit and I’m not going back there again that’s not what Jesus died for me to do. I have the mind of Christ and I put on my helmet of salvation, I refuse to go back in the pit!”
Satan wants to keep us in the pit so that our minds would be concentrating on our problems and off of the Lord and on seeking Him. By keeping us in the pit he is able to steal our God-given destiny. Satan’s time old strategy is that of distraction. He would send and cause any and every kind of distraction your way so that you take your eyes off of Jesus and the bible. Once we take our eyes off of God our enemy will devour, steal from, kill and destroy us. Resist him, firm in your faith, knowing that the same kinds of suffering are being experienced by your brotherhood throughout the world (1 Peter 5:9).
We have to take a stand and stop being pitiful and decide to be powerful for God. We could be bitter, or we could get better, don’t allow the devil to walk all over you. As the old hymn states, “Count your many blessings, name them one by one.”
Even through difficulty Philippians 4:4-7 states rejoice in the Lord always and not be anxious but with thanksgiving, pray about everything then His peace which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Press into Him more than ever and allow Him to give you His peace and rest in the midst of the chaos. You will then be able to hear him more clearly so that He may lead, guard, guide, heal, restore, redeem and vindicate you.
We are pressed on every side by troubles, but not crushed and broken. We are perplexed because we don’t know why things happen as they do, but we don’t give up and quit. We are hunted down, but God never abandons us. We get knocked down, but we get up again and keep going. These bodies of ours are constantly facing death just as Jesus did; so it is clear to all that it is only the living Christ within who keeps us safe (2 Corinthians 4:8-10).
We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they are good for us—they help us learn to be patient. And patience develops strength of character in us and helps us trust God more each time we use it until finally our hope and faith are strong and steady. Then, when that happens, we are able to hold our heads high no matter what happens and know that all is well, for we know how dearly God loves us, and we feel this warm love everywhere within us because God has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with His love. (Romans 5:3-5)
Consider it nothing but joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you fall into various trials. Be assured that the testing of your faith (through experience) produces endurance (leading to spiritual maturity, and inner peace) and let endurance have its perfect result and do a thorough work, so that you may be perfect and completely developed (in your faith), lacking in nothing (James 1:2-4).
Therefore, consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us (Romans 8:18). For blessed (happy, spiritually prosperous, favored by God) is the man who is steadfast under trial and perseveres when tempted; for when he has passed the test and been approved, he will receive the (victor’s) crown of life which the Lord has promised to those who love Him (James 1:12).
1 John 5:4-5 states that we who believe that Jesus Christ is the Son of God and is the Christ is born of God and overcomes the world. Our victory that overcomes the world is our continuing and persistent faith in Jesus the Son of God. We are more than conquerors and gain an overwhelming victory through Him who loved us so much that He died for us (Romans 8:37).
We overcome and conquer our adversities through our God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God (2 Corinthians 1:3-4). Receive God’s unconditional love and comfort and allow him to heal you so that you are not overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good (Romans 12:21).
A sister in Christ who God sent to minister to me in my time of adversity revealed to me something profound that God revealed to her that’s in line with 2 Corinthians 1:3-4. She told me that our wounds help heal other people’s wounds just as Jesus’ wounds heal our wounds.
When your soul is cast down and disquieted within you do like King David did and put your Hope in God so that He may heal, comfort and strengthen you. Don’t be discouraged. Don’t be upset. Expect God to act! Know that you shall again have plenty of reason to praise Him for all that He will do. He is our help! He is our God!(Psalm 42:11)
One major thing God showed and reminded me of during my adversity was to make sure, above all else, guard my heart, for everything you do flows from it, it determines the course of your life (Proverbs 4:23).
He wanted me to forgive and keep my heart clean, free from anger, bitterness and resentment. The key to healing is forgiveness, forgiving others who may have harmed you and forgiving yourself. Forgiveness is a choice and comes from the heart (Matthew 18:35). If we don’t forgive others or ourselves, our Heavenly Father won’t forgive our sins (Matthew 6:14-15).
Jesus said that we may have sorrow now but He will see us again and our hearts will rejoice and then no one will take our joy from us and that whatever we ask of the Father in Jesus’ name, He will give it to us. All we have to do is ask, and we will receive so that our joy may be full (John 16:22-24).
Therefore, lift your drooping hands and strengthen your weak knees (Hebrews 12:12), lift up your strengthened hands toward God and praise Him for who He is in the midst of trouble. Speak to one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, offering praise by singing and making melody with your heart to the Lord. Speak in tongues so that you strengthen your spirit man.
Expect to receive and know that He promises to give you beauty for your ashes, the oil of joy for your mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness; so that you may be called trees of righteousness, the planting of the Lord, that He may be glorified (Isaiah 61:3). The righteous shall move onward and forward; those with pure hearts shall become stronger and stronger (Job 17:9).
Let us strip off every weight that slows us down, especially the sin that so easily trips us up. And let us run with endurance the race God has set before us. We do this by keeping our eyes on Jesus, the champion who initiates and perfects our faith. Because of the joy awaiting Him, He endured the cross, disregarding its shame. Now He is seated in the place of honor beside God’s throne. Think of all the hostility He endured from sinful people; then you won’t become weary and give up. (Hebrews 12: 1-3).
Prayer of Faith
As you pray this prayer below pray it and ask in faith believing and you shall receive (Matthew 21:22. Know that God is near, hearing your cries and expect Him to answer your prayers because He actively watches over His word to fulfill it (Jeremiah 1:12). I urge you to go on a period of fasting and prayer and watch Him work in your life.
Father God, I lift up my eyes to the hills because it is only from You my help comes from (Psalm 121:1). Not from any man nor anything of this world. My flesh and my heart may fail, but God You are the rock and strength of my heart and my portion forever (Psalm 73:26). Father, I choose to put my trust in You at all times even now, I pour out my heart before you because you are my refuge (Psalms 62:8). I completely empty myself before you and completely surrender my heart, soul, body and Spirit, all that I am, to You. Father, I forgive all those who have done me wrong and I forgive myself. Forgive me now of my trespasses and wash me clean. Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me (Psalm 51:10). God you are Jehovah Rapha, the God who healeth thee. Therefore, heal my soul, mind, heart and emotions and to make me whole and complete again in You, Jesus. Heal me Lord and I shall be healed, save me Lord and I shall be saved for you are the one I praise” (Jeremiah 17:14). Fill me full with your Holy Spirit, Your light, love, peace and rest. Holy Spirit you are my comforter, encourager, helper and strengthener. Comfort, encourage, help and strengthen me now (John 14:26). Lord, I know you are nearest to me now therefore save me who’s crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). Heal my broken heart and bind up my wounds, healing my pain and comforting my sorrow (Psalm 147:3). Father I cast all my cares (all my anxieties, all my worries, and all my concerns, once and for all) on You (1 Peter 5:7), I lay them all at the feet of Your cross. You said Your grace is sufficient for Your power is made perfect in weakness, for when we are weak, then we are strong (2 Corinthians 12:9-10), therefore Father pour into me now your supernatural strength. Because I have made Jesus Lord over my life, the joy of the Lord that dwell within me is my strength (Nehemiah 8:10). Therefore, I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me from within (Philippians 4:13). I have the mind of Christ (1 Corinthians 2:16) and I put on the helmet of salvation (Ephesians 6:17) and I take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ and I punish every disobedience (2 Corinthians 10:5-6). I set my mind on things that are above, not on things that are on earth (Colossians 3:2). I refuse to be a punching bag for the devil and allow him to walk all over me any longer. I won’t allow him to distract me or steal my God-given destiny. I will steady and keep my eyes on the cross, on Jesus and the bible. I submit to God, resist the devil and he must flee (James 4:7). I am an overcomer (1 John 5:4-5) and I am more than a conqueror and gain an overwhelming victory through Jesus who loved me so much that He died for me (Romans 8:37). God of all comfort, comfort me in my affliction, so that I may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which I have been comforted by God (2 Corinthians 1:3-4). I lift up my drooping hands and strengthen my weak knees (Hebrews 12:12) and praise You for who You are. You are the God that I serve, You are Absolutely Good and more than worthy to be praised. You are the one true God, the maker of heaven and of earth. The God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob. I receive Your promise that you will give me beauty for my ashes, the oil of joy for my mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness; so that I may be called a tree of righteousness, the planting of the Lord, that You may be glorified (Isaiah 61:3). I shall move onward and forward and shall become stronger and stronger (Job 17:9). I pray and receive all this in Jesus’ mighty name Amen.
Special Message From Author:
When God put it on my heart to write, “Perseverance: Enduring Through Adversity,” I was just getting out of an adversity in my life and was still in need of inner healing and wholeness. I was still struggling to get out of and keep myself from going into the pit but as I wrote, God revealed to me and reminded me of everything in this blog post on overcoming adversity. As I reached the end of my writing I was completely healed, made whole and was strengthened. This took me out of a place where I was stuck in and didn’t know how to get out of… but God did, He knew. He revealed all this to me so that I could share this with you. I would like to add that at the beginning of my adversity and devastation God lead me to go on a 21-day Daniel Fast and Prayer. This helped me to totally lean on and put everything in subjection to Him, allowing Him to heal me and make me whole. He comforted me in my affliction, so that I may be able to comfort you who are in affliction, with the comfort with which I have been comforted by God (2 Corinthians 1:3-4). May my wounds heal your wounds just as Christ Jesus’ wounds heal our wounds.